Grief and loss
You prepared for a life and came home with empty arms. The grief that follows is total — and often, heartbreakingly quiet.
Stillbirth sits in a strange gap in how society handles loss. You grieve a person who, to many people around you, never quite existed. There is no obituary, rarely a funeral, sometimes not even a name spoken aloud by others. And yet for you, the loss is complete — a whole imagined future, a whole specific person, gone.
The world often does not give this grief the space it deserves. People say the wrong things — "at least it was early," "you can try again" — not out of cruelty but because they don't know what to do with a loss they can't hold in their hands. That leaves you carrying the full weight of it, often alone.
Everything. Rage at people who said the wrong thing. Rage at your own body. A hollow stillness that makes the simplest tasks feel impossible. Love that has nowhere to go. The specific grief of packing away things that were bought, washed, folded in anticipation. The exhaustion of having to explain — or choose not to explain — why you look the way you look.
None of these feelings need to be justified or moderated for anyone else's comfort. They are the natural response to an enormous loss, and they deserve to be spoken out loud.
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