Cross-cultural loneliness
In an international marriage, at least one partner is usually far from their family, their language, and the cultural context that shaped them. The marriage is the primary relationship, but it is also the only relationship for much of what matters. That dependency, however loving, produces a specific loneliness — the absence of the other layers of support that most people take for granted.
In most marriages, each partner has their own network of family and friends — people who provide support, perspective, and connection independent of the marriage. In an international marriage, one or both partners is far from that network. The marriage carries more weight. When it is going well, that closeness can be intense and good. When there is friction, there is also less to buffer it.
There is also the question of which country to live in, which language, which cultural norms prevail in the household — decisions that most couples never have to make because they are assumed. Each of those decisions represents someone's loss. That is rarely talked about honestly.
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